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The nation’s welcome mats have been doing a lot less welcoming lately. Although Americans have been spending much more time at home in recent years—an hour and 39 minutes more a day in 2022 than in 2003—they aren’t inviting other people in. The percentage of people who hosted or attended a social event on an average day has fallen by 50 percent over the past couple of decades. Socializing of any kind declined over that same period, and isolation rose. These days, it seems, home is where people go to be alone.
TL;DR
- Americans are spending more time at home but less time hosting or attending social events, leading to increased isolation.
- Stress often leads people to cancel social plans, further exacerbating isolation.
- Relationships are the number one predictor of happiness, and sacrificing social time for 'me time' harms this.
- The article advocates for 'low-stakes' or 'scruffy hospitality,' where the focus is on connection rather than perfect hosting.
- Changing the mindset that homes are solely private sanctuaries and reducing the pressure to present a perfect home are crucial for reviving social interaction.
- The trend towards larger homes with more empty bedrooms, coupled with security features and a cultural emphasis on home as a private retreat, contributes to decreased welcoming of guests.
- Spontaneity and overcoming calendar congestion are key to fostering casual, frequent social interactions.
- Lowering expectations and embracing vulnerability in hosting can build closeness and allow for more authentic connections.