Letting go: Why holding onto grudges can be damaging

TL;DR

Journalist Meredith Lepore admits to holding grudges for years, citing instances from childhood to more recent events.
Grudges can be very common, with a survey indicating that 78% of adults harbor lingering resentment.
Psychotherapist Nancy Colier and Harvard professor Tyler VanderWeele explain that holding grudges is harmful, comparing it to self-poisoning.
Unforgiveness can lead to increased cardiovascular problems, depression, and anxiety.
The prevalence of public airing of grudges is amplified by social media and a perceived decline in discussions of character.
Forgiveness is defined as letting go of a grudge and replacing ill will with goodwill, though it doesn't necessarily mean reconciliation.
Author Immaculée Ilibagiza, a survivor of the Rwandan genocide, exemplifies the power of forgiveness despite immense suffering.
Taking ownership of one's well-being by letting go of grudges is crucial for finding equanimity.

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